I saw a viral video of how a married woman confronted a side-chic over her husband’s act of infidelity towards her as a wife. A lot of reactions and comments flying here and there on social media; People airing their views and opinions on this subject matter. Some comments were good, some were bad while some were really funny. However, I’m dedicating this piece to all strong women out there who paused their dreams at some point in life because of a man.
Most times we seem to forget our self-worth; we tend to crawl back into our shell whenever life hits us hard. It’s okay if we do that but for how long? Looking good is a good business, staying in shape and looking all hot and sexy for your man after having some kids with him is still okay but after that what happens next?
Before you met that man you, had some dreams and life goals you wanted to achieve, what happened to them? Have you ever asked yourself- What is my personality? Who am I and what do I have to offer?
Most women only move around with the consciousness of “I’m a Lady” neglecting the aura that comes with the sense of purpose behind “Being a Lady”. Do you even know your worth as a woman? Do you carry yourself with confidence? Do you study or work hard to add value to yourself and family? It’s a pity that some women don’t even know their rights and privileges as a woman, that is why you let yourself get tossed around by your man.
For the married women, I have a question for you- do you have any identity outside your husband? If your answer is “Yes”- Great!! You deserve some accolades but if your answer is “No” that is because you abandoned your dreams and drives at the altar of marriage. This defines why you appear insignificant the moment your husband starts drifting away from his commitment to you as a wife.
It is every woman’s desire to be loved, treasured and respected. For you to enjoy this, Self-development and Capacity building has a vital role to play. The mistake most women make is tying that knot with your man when you haven’t answered the basic questions you need to ask yourself as a woman- “What is my personality? Who am I? and What do I have to offer?” Stepping into that marriage“Empty in terms of purpose” can be frustrating and disastrous. If I must put it this way, “You cheated yourself even before the man cheated on you”. A piece of advice- Never abandon your dreams and life goals on the altar of marriage. Life is a school, you only graduate when you die therefore don’t stop building and developing yourself (mentally) even after marriage.
You might base the excuse on your negligence on you having kids and all that… “kids are hard work” Yes, we know!! They are really adorable!! but you shouldn’t lose yourself either. It is your due diligence to balance your life goals with your family duties. You should make it a personal task to always be on top of your games. There are lots of successful mothers with great impacts on the society as well as in their homes.
The war against side-chics shouldn’t be a physical confrontation just like the woman in the viral video did. You can only win this war when step up your games on your role as a “wife” and as a “woman of purpose”. Be that intellectual and irresistible woman who knows her worth and has value to offer besides “sex”. Be that woman whom a man is afraid to cheat on because he doesn’t want to lose her. Be that uncommon woman which a man cannot easily replace with any other because your qualities are rare to come by.
It is a proven fact that 80 % men are polygamous in nature and no matter how sophisticated their woman is, they still derive pleasure in cheating. Real men are attracted to intelligent ladies and women of wisdom. Can your man confidently discuss a disturbing business deal with you because he trusts your wise judgement? Can you make a logical and meaningful input in controversial situations?
Therefore, I will urge all the strong women who sacrificed their dreams and life-goals on the altar of marriage or gave up on their dreams along the line because of a man; Yeah! I understand your pain and frustration but you need to dust yourself up, pick up whatever is left of you…go back to wherever you abandoned your dreams- Step by step, re-visit them one after another. Any man who claims he loves you will always support your visions for your life as woman. He won’t make you give up on your dreams because you chose to settle for him.
Finally, build your self-esteem by being conscious of your worth and who you are. Strive to be that irreplaceable; also worthy of note- live for yourself, your goals and your interests with this you have this inner fulfillment and happiness in you.
Twitter makes Ghana its headquarters in Africa, Nigerians React
Twitter announced today that the company is now in Africa, with its headquarters in Ghana.
“Twitter is now present on the continent. Thank you Ghana and @NakufoAddo,” Twitter CEO, Jack Dorsey tweeted today, April 12.
Abubakar Suleiman, the CEO of Sterling Bank, has weighed in on the conversation about Twitter making Ghana its headquarters in African.
Nigerians reacted to the fact that Ghana, and not Nigeria, was chosen to be the headquarters.
Then Suleiman tweeted: “First you tell the world Nigeria is a zoo.. Then you hear @TwitterSF has chosen @GhanaPresidency as their WA headquarters & you are wondering why.
“If you can’t sell yourself, nobody will buy you. Nigeria remains the heartbeat of Africa, our current struggles notwithstanding.”
Bank CEO, Abubakar Suleiman blames Nigerians who bad-mouth the country for Twitter’s decision to make Ghana its headquarters in Africa
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A number of his followers took to the comments to disagree with him and he doubled down, writing: “I think everyone sells. And we should showcase the good things in our country even as we critic the shortcomings..”
John Magufuli’s Death: The lessons for Nigerian leaders
JOHN Magufuli, president of Tanzania died a few weeks ago and it is taking the whole of Africa a long time to come to grips with his death.
It is like a bad dream; many of us are yet to come to terms that he died of natural causes.
Here was a man who was full of life, executing his duties with zeal and passion, taking on the super powers in all ramifications, suddenly going down with a strange illness that finally consumed him.
The establishment people among us will say that this is natural, but for a man that had his private physician at his beck and call, such sudden heart attacks are not normal, unless there were inherent or prevailing ailments which were not made known to the public.
In this day and age, when peopled can be killed without trace of the murder weapon, the death of Magufuli will remain a mystery. We have seen the elimination of progressive African leaders in the past and this one will rank as one of them.
Before now there were Sylvanus Olympio 1963, Thomas Sankara 1987, Patrice Lumumba of Congo, Amilcar Cabral of Guinea-Bissau and many others too numerous to mention here.
The purpose of this piece is to highlight the impact Magufuli was able to make within a few years in power.
It is my humble opinion that if African leaders can replicate his methodology, it will not be long before our long-expected economic liberation will be accomplished.
This was a man who went into government with clear-cut ideas about what to do. According to Professor P.L.O. Lumumba, “politics is the competition of ideas”.
In this case, ideas that can be put into practice to move society forward. Ideas are not static or permanent, they are subject to vagaries and dynamics of life; that is why the late President Julius Nyerere of Tanzania said: “When you make mistakes, you can correct them”; an idea that is no longer relevant to the growth of society, should not be encouraged by anyone in position of leadership.
When you are in position of leadership and you are not governed by relevant ideas, you tend to go round in circles and in the short run, your failure will be exposed to the world.
This is a man who came to power as President of Tanzania, barely a year after our own Muhammadu Buhari was sworn in as Nigerian president.
But five years after, what can we say about our situation in Nigeria and what can we tell about Tanzania?
In this period, Magufuli was able to bring his country’s economy from the bottom to a middle income economy, while that of Nigeria went into recession several times and indeed, lost its position as the biggest economy in Africa.
Not only that, Nigeria was able to firmly establish itself as the country with the highest number of poor people in the world.
The difference is very clear, but some of us will always come out to defend this position with the fact that Nigeria is not Tanzania and begin to give excuses on why this is so.
A leadership that focuses on excuses will never get things done, because it loses direction and offers faults instead of solutions.
When you have a mandate deprived of excuses, you will come up with solutions, no matter the situation and the interesting thing about this is that, the solutions will be local.
Let us, for example, note how Magufuli moved his nation from economic doldrums just by applying home- grown solutions.
He came up with a policy that makes it compulsory for all minerals extracted in the land to be used as raw materials in local manufacturing. Raw materials can only be taken out of the country on the express permission of the Predidency.
And, to give bite to this law, raw materials billed for export were impounded at the port of Dar es Salaam and the whole world took notice.
If this law is enacted in Nigeria and faithfully applied, there is no way we would be importing petroleum products into this country because we have the raw materials and the capacity, but lack the political will to execute such policy.
If we want to run the NNPC mainly on the basis of merit, this position can be accomplished in less than two years; but do we have the will?
When you site the refineries at the point of drilling the oil, why would you have crude oil pipeline sabotage? Magufuli banned foreign trips for his government officials and used the proposed money to rehabilitate the health sector.
He abolished tax exemptions for ministers; but, here in Nigeria, how do our government appointees behave? With over bloated numbers of aides, fleet of cars in garages, all at government expenses, how do you expect government to be productive?
People say that President Buhari is not after wealth, that he has always lived frugally; but, as President of Nigeria since 2015, we have not seen such display of frugality in spending at the presidential level, and this had emboldened the National Assembly leadership to toe in his steps.
Imagine if government decides to cut drastically on its spending, what benefit that will bring to the country’s economy? Magufuli fined illegal miners to the tune of 193 million Tanzanian shillings for under-valuing Tanzania gold export and seized 250 containers at the port. The British- owned company was forced to give away 16 percent shares of the company to the government of Tanzania.
In Nigeria, everyone is depending on Niger Delta oil, while foreign elements and greedy Nigerians collaborate to export valuable raw materials out of the country, with government officials and security agencies looking the other way.
These raw materials are what Magufuli used to build the Tanzania economy.
In Nigeria, we allow foreigners and bandits to take control of the business; meanwhile, the states are unable to pay the minimum wage for workers.
We have raw materials in abundance: gold, tin, copper, bauxite, silver, steel and so many more, waiting to be tapped; but no one in government is interested, as long as the Abuja allocation is guaranteed.
In Nigeria, people are killing themselves, while security officials remain aloof.
Magufuli reduced his cabinet size from 30 to 19; in Nigeria the figure is increasing. He rejected a $10 billion loan from China because the conditions attached to it are inimical to the progress of his country.
In Nigeria we are insatiably going after the Chinese loans, no matter the conditions attached to them; we cannot build railways without Chinese loans.
Magufuli was able to build railways, hydro power stations, LNG plants, bridges, wind farm projects, gold refinery plant, expanded park projects, executed free education for public schools, and many more, without collecting any foreign loan.
He called the bluffs of super powers, Britain and China; all he did to move the country forward was to block the drain pipes and tapped on the potentials in the country.
He stood alone and fearless against the forces of darkness; he sacrificed self for Tanzania; he banned all illicit and explicit videos from Tanzania online space; and despite all of these, he made his Tanzania a middle income country.
Unfortunately, while he was doing these things, no African leader openly supported him; I guess for fear of losing on their loan deals and others.
I really wish that the African continent can have more Magufulis, so that in no distant time, we will be able to contest with the best in the world.
Our leadership must wake up. Professor Lumumba calls it the “magulification of Africa”; that is, to bring political hygiene into governance in Africa.
“Bandits won’t surrender if they don’t feel safe” – Sheikh Gumi proposes amnesty for bandits
Islamic cleric, Ahmad Gumi has said bandits will not let go of their arms if they are not assured of their safety and rehabilitation.
Gumi said this on Wednesday, March 24, during a virtual event hosted by the National Institute for Legislative and Democratic Studies.
The meeting was organised to discuss Nigeria’s security challenges.
Speaking, the cleric said he sees no reason why the government should not dialogue with the bandits who are willing to negotiate.
He said: “Nobody can justify criminality, what we are saying is what we saw in the forest is an ethnic war going on between people in the forest and the neighboring villages and hamlets. When the herder felt he has grievances and nobody was listening to him, he took on weapons.
“So when we went there and they saw a listening ear, they were ready to negotiate, tell us their grievances, and ready to incorporate into the society. So in such a case, I see no reason why we should not have a dialogue with them.”
According to The Cable, the cleric added that if they are not shown that they’ll be safe when reintegrated into the society, they will continue to carry arms.
The cleric further stated that they should be given amnesty the same way the Niger Delta militants were granted amnesty.
He said: “Looking at their educational status, they don’t have any official or unofficial education. How can a nation which is serious about security leave a chunk of its society so uneducated, leave it to arms and drugs? I don’t think that society is serious. How can we disperse them, rehabilitate them because they are holding arms to protect themselves.
“If you don’t show them they’re safe in the larger society, there’s no way they can leave their weapon. And that’s why we asked for amnesty for them just like we had in the Niger Delta.
“I’m not justifying their kidnapping, what they do is crime. But their kidnapping is to get more money to buy more weapons so that they can protect themselves.”
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